I’ve found independence, purpose and pride in who I am

I was born in 1969 with a heart condition, curvature of the spine, a learning disability and dyslexia. Life started with challenges and a lot of secrecy around my background. My birth mother already had a daughter. She’s from Barbados and my dad is St Lucian, but I’ve never met him. I’ve met my birth mum, and though it wasn’t easy, we now stay in touch.

But my real parents – the ones who brought me up – were my foster parents. They raised me from the age of two. They were amazing people and they gave me so much love and encouragement. I miss them dearly.

After they passed away, I was living in a bedsit. Social Services wanted me to move into assisted living, but I’ve never let my disabilities stop me from doing anything. I wanted to stay independent. I’d already been to college, learnt life skills, and knew I was capable of more. That’s when I was referred to Transform in 2002 – and I’ve been here ever since.

Today, I live in my own flat with monthly visits from my support workers, and extra help when my heart condition makes life difficult. Having that balance means I can stay independent but know support is always there when I need it.

My keyworker Sophie has been by my side for 14 years. She really gets things done, whether it’s health appointments, paperwork, or just being there for me when I need reassurance. I was so proud when she became Deputy Manager – she’s brilliant at what she does.

With Transform’s support I’ve built a life I love. I work two days a week in the funeral trade, which might sound unusual, but I find it meaningful and rewarding.

I’ve also been the official Town Crier of Caterham since 2003 – the first Black disabled woman to hold the role. Being a town crier is like being an early version of a newsreader. I open events like fetes and shops. In Caterham, the children call me “the pirate” and the adults call me “the mayor”. I love it.

I’m happy with my life. I’ve even been abroad! My birth mum has moved back to Barbados and next year I’ll be visiting her there, which will be a big step.

There’s a lot of prejudice and ignorance out there and so many disabilities aren’t even visible. Transform has given me the freedom to live independently, but with help when I need it. They’re always there at the end of the phone. I really admire what they do – helping people with all kinds of different challenges.

Looking back, thanks to Transform, I’ve come such a long way. I’ve built a life I’m proud of – full of history, heart and a lot of strength.